Sometime in our past, perhaps as a child, we were hurt in a way we were not equipped to handle. Some of us were neglected, rejected or abused by someone close to us. This hurt, along with a loss of trust and innocence gave us a wound we were unable to hide from.
To deal with our pain, we sought ways to cope, some healthy and some not. As our wounds remained hidden, over time, they grew deeper and more painful. As we continued to medicate the pain and stress in our life, we began to exist in an altered world where more and more of our time and energy focused on supporting our habits.
By the time we came out of denial, our coping mechanisms had taken control of our lives. They were no longer a solution to the pain, but had become destructive problems that were hurting us and those around us.
For some of us, we used alcohol; for others it was drugs. For some it was another substance or behavior. For each of us, it stopped being a help to us and became our master and god.
If you find you cannot quit drinking or using entirely, or if you have little control over the amount you consume, you are probably an alcoholic and/or an addict. If that is the case, you may be suffering from a problem which only a spiritual solutions will conquer.
1. Have you ever decided to stop drinking and/or using for a week or so, but only lasted for a couple of days?
2. Do you wish people would mind their own business about your drinking and/or using, and stop telling you what to do?
3. Have you ever switched from one kind of drink or drug to another in the hope that this would keep you from losing control?
4. Have you had to have an "eye-opener" upon awakening during the past year? Do you need a drink or a drug to get started or to stop shaking?
5. Do you envy people who can drink or use drugs without getting into trouble?
6. Have you had problems connected with drinking or using during the past year?
7. Has your drinking or using caused trouble at home?
8. Do you ever try to get "extra" drinks or drugs at a party because you did not get enough?
9. Do you tell yourself you can stop drinking or using any time you want to, even though you keep getting inebriated when you don't mean to?
10. Have you missed days of work or school because of drinking or using?
11. Do you have "blackouts"?
12. Have you ever felt that your life would be better if you did not drink or use?
Did you answer YES two or more times? If so, you are probably in trouble with alcohol or drugs.
Only you can decide whether you think Celebrate Recovery is for you. Try to keep an open mind on the subject. If the answer is YES, we will be glad to show you how we stopped drinking and using drugs ourselves.
We admit we cannot continue in the direction we were headed and our life was unmanageable. We see how our attempts to solve our problems and control the world and those around us have failed miserably. By accepting that we cannot fix ourselves, we reach out for help. As we abandon our need to control, we find the real solution: Surrender to God and His Son. Jesus Christ as our Savior and Lord is the key we are seeking.
By consistently meeting with others who were caught in a similar cycle and hearing the hope they have found, we will be able to achieve sobriety. As our sobriety grows, the fog of the fuzzy world we were living in will lift, allowing us to gain perspective on the source of our pain. As we continue to meet and turn our life and our will over to the care of a loving God, we begin to truly live life again.
We continue to work through our feelings in the safety of our group. We see the hope that God provides through his inescapable love. By continuing to share openly and honestly and by listening, we find new and healthy ways to cope; no longer having to rely on our dysfunctional, compulsive and addictive behaviors as a temporary "fix" for our pain. We are here to help each other find our way to recovery through surrender, and in turn, develop stronger relationships with others and with God.
Celebrate Recovery meets every Friday night at River Valley Christian Fellowship Church in Bourbonnais.